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Can yall explain to me how toxic relationships exist
| Effects of nuclear radiation
| maladaptive relationships beget the same
it's a platitude but the truth is that ppl brought up without healthy ideals of love tend to replicate unhealthy ideals of love, and codependence is a crab bucket that sees a lot of these people clinging together
there are a ton of reasons, unfortunately
| Humans are complex. Relationships cannot be reduced to simple logic. If you try you will keep asking 'why why why?'
| In my case, a toxic relationship started because of me. My girlfriend has abandonment issues due to a traumatic childhood, and I initially accidentally fed it by giving her all my attention at all times of the day. Eventually, I started to ween off a bit and start focusing on myself, but she got used to the attention and noticed the change. Eventually she started trying to get that attention back, which pushed me away a bit, which made her try harder, which pushed me further...
| We've since learned from our mistakes and found a good balance. Remember g/u/rls, life is a deadly balance that will throw you off the scales if you dont respect it!
| Yakub basically
| You are blinded by emotions.. you will notice when others saying it or when they start blackmail you when you try little bit try be free and less needy
| >>952725 maybe it's can be considered as cheating but they are 2 different people.. girl what i was stalking is someone else.. she is alive and we are all right.. i also told about way how i was worrying and she wasn't mad.. i really thought that she attempted again about suicide (successfully) (this i didn't said it to her)..
Person what blackmail me is because she was having plans to meet me.. i said that about all my stupid emotions and way how i'm scared to meet people..
| Than she said me that i should delete my account or she will show talk to everyone.. maybe is problem in that she loved me but i found in her as safe person who i could anytime to talk to.. in bad scenario she can send it to 2 classmates or my parents i think.. but still.. idk if i can handle it if she will going to.. imagine that my parents see.. it's scares me.. i try to improve relations with family.. and than they would see how i identity or what degenerate i'm..
| nigga shut the fuck up
| I once stopped talk with her for month 4 years back when i saw what she stalked about me paradoxically.. About high school, people and so.. i got scared and than i somehow missed her and talk with her again.. all was ok i guess.. and than this.. maybe it's because of my bitch needy personality what is scared to being abandoned..
>>952741 i'm pale as snow, also i found this board probably years before you..
| https://youtu.be/PQQGbjmwJ10
| not reading that get a life
| Have sex
| ^ Too many braindead faggots on this site
| >>>>952744 shut the fuck up honky
| toxic relationships are the result of millennia of society undervaluing emotional intelligence
nothing more nothing less
"logicians" deserve all the suffering they get
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| I might be lacking the emotional factor but I really cant wrap my head around it. How does anyone hurt their significant other?? If you hate them so much just find someone else you'll like?? Why wont the other leave the abuser even if they aren't being threatened?? How can others help??