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I've messed up, anons. This is it.
| Well congrats on the kid, but you shouldn't see it as doom and gloom. Just talk to your partner and discuss what you want to do with your potential kid, and you'll be fine
| nice one idiot, enjoy losing the next 20 years of your life
| >>900458 yea, but the scary thing is, how are we gonna tell our situation to our parents.
that's the scariest part for me, and I'm pretty sure, to my partner as well.
we have actually been talking about stuff like that, even way before this happened, but given the economy of the world rn, I don't think it's a good time to have a baby.
>>900463
right.
| dont worry about it and "fuck it we ball"
| >>900465 I don't think that's the right kind of mindset in raising a child.
I'm not actually scared of raising a baby. I'm very confident that I will be a good, kind parent. But in terms of resources, that's where I'm in trouble. Plus, the aforementioned parents problem. I don't know what to do.
I feel like crying.
It's so early right now, and I have no one to talk to about this because it's only me and my partner who knows this. Yet.
| >>900464 yeah the world's population is kind of high, and here in the US at least, we're swan diving into a recession in the near future so.. yeah shits fucked. I mean hey there's always abortion, but that also depends where you live ( for some fucking reason ) but that's a debate I don't think an anonymous message board is the place for.
Either way us stupid g/u/rls are here to talk witchya.
| >>900464
Announce the pregnancy with joy and happiness. Maybe this didn't happen on purpose, but if you love your partner and want to see that love manifest in a child, see this as an opportunity to become a fully fledged adult.
As for the economy and your resources, just think that for thousands of years your ancestors had to brave much greater problems than the economy.You'll have to figure things out as you go, but what better opportunity to get serious about what you want?
| Too late to abort?
| Your life is over. 18 year life debt minimum and you have nothing
| hope that bareback worth it gurl
| >>900505
thanks. I really don't know who else to talk to, aside from my partner.
as for abortion, we're kinda talking about it, but I feel like it's out of the equation. It is just too expensive. I'm a college student, even my one year allowance won't cover the expenses that preposterous.
>>900524
I do love my partner, and as much as I want to, like, announce it with glee, we can't. It's just unlikely that people close to us will be happy with that kind of announcement
| >>900524
also, sigh, yea. out of all this, the bright side I'm seeing is that, I don't feel as directionless anymore. like my mind is focusing on one thing, and it's on how to break this thing to our families, and how to handle all of this that we've get ourselves into.
still scared, nervous, and anxious though.
It's much much better to raise a child when you've planned it to the T, and not just coming up with something as you go
| Kill the kid when it is born.
| testing
| ha, okay, still works
| >>900539 not really, we're at 2 weeks as far as I can tell.
but abortion is kind of like, off the table
| >>900539 not really, we're at 2 weeks as far as I can tell.
but abortion is kind of like, off the table
| >>900540
sigh. this is what I'm scared of. I grew up in a poor family. my partner didn't.
I know how hard it is to get by day-to-day, and I don't want our would-be family to experience that kind of life.
I don't know what steps to take.
I only have one year left of college, and I'm now fit to work. Maybe I'm gonna start early and be a working student in the meantime.
| Have sex with your kid once it grows big.
| have sex with your kid immediately
| >>900573 I know. This is what I'm telling you. You know you're going to subject your child to many hardships and disadvantages because of your actions. I do not know how you will rest knowing you'd rather go ahead against all odds, with a long unhappy road in front of you. Cherish the last moments you have with not much responsibility, soon you will surrender all of that for a "sort of worked out" at best outcome. I weep for humanity.
| the facts are that op ruined a girl's future and now needs to find a way to cough up 25k a year (that's if he lives in a low cost area, which he probably doesn't since there's an uni there), without a degree or any work experience. which you would know if you weren't from a fatherless environment lmao
| and that 25k is completely excluding any living cost incurred by himself and his partner
| >>900563
You're not announcing it for their benefit, but for yours. You're gonna need help raising the kid, and the faster you get them over the shock, the faster you can get help.
Also yea the timing isn't exactly ideal, but if you're serious about the kid then there really isn't a discussion, you just have to start crunching the numbers and making it work
| >>900628 ruined maybe too much a heavy word, but i guess that's one (and probably the only) way to put it.
I am gonna ruin her future. And it's the one thing that's making me feel bad about all this
| >>900632 you're not feeling bad for the kid at all? the girl consented to sex at least, the kid didn't do anything wrong to be plunged into poverty due to you two's recklessness
what are you going to do for money?
| I don't have any work experience, but I'm only a year away from graduating from college so..
I also plan to, maybe become a working student and start saving up now for all the expenses that we're gonna need. this is all too much, but I gotta learn how to handle all this stuff.
christ, this is heavy
| >>900633 well, of course I feel bad for our kid, being born in a messed up world with confused parents, but feeling bad about all that now, I don't think, is gonna make a lot of difference here in the present, so I'll have to work on it .
| >>900632
Don't let that miserably troll get into your head. Your girl is just as responsible as you are. Don't blame yourself for something that hasn't even happened yet.
You can do this, you know? You don't need to be rich to raise a child. As long as your college educations grants you jobs you'll be fine. Sharing rent and living expenses goes a long way and once your kid is old enough to speak it gets incredibly rewarding to raise a child.
| And once the child is born your parents are gonna get really stoked, no matter how they feel about it today.
This is your first child. It's okay to be confused because, everyone is, you know? You have plenty of time to learn how to be a good parent. Talk to other young fathers and mothers and learn from each other. No matter where you live there's always at least one support group for young parents to engage with eachother.
| And again, stop engaging with the trolls. Listening to emo incels on anonymous internet boards will never do you any good in life, ever. They're miserable emos for a valid reason, and misery loves company, which is why he's trying to drag you down to his level.
| Just kidding!
| Que serasera
| congratulations!
yeah, it's scary and exciting, but the two of you can make it work! The world might seem bad, but that's perspective. in the 80's, were people not having kida because of the threat of nuclear MAD? Nope! you've got a family, and they can help. you aren't in this alone, both irl and online! people in worse situations than you are having kids, so your concern is proof that you'll be good parents. do your best, and love your child and each other!
| OP here. Thank you so much, anons. I'm still really confused as to what to do and really nervous about what's gonna happen. I appreciate all your advice.
I hope all goes well in this journey of me.
Thank you so much >>5af569, you were really encouraging.
| KILL YOURSELF YOU FCUKING FUCK FAGGOT CUNT BITCH
| Pay for her abortion and *then* kill yourself, so none of your blood inhabit the Earth.
| DIE DIE DIE DIE DIE
| You've been alive for more than twenty years. Can you think of a single good deed you've done?
One single thing to make someone's life better.
No.
And all you're doing is keep making things worse for your partner, her family, your family - they should be ashamed of you.
You should make things easier on us and just hang yourself.
| FUCK YOURSELF
| oh shit >>fa2543 's prescription ran out. can someone go to the pharmacy and get this g/u/rl their meds?
| I shat myself
| good luck op! anyone can be a parent really, what's important is that you and your partner are committed to it. if you need resources, check local charities and shopping for groceries at cheaper places and buying in bulk really does go a long way, as does splitting rent and utilities. just try not to doom and maybe log of anonymous boards for a bit and surround yourself with people who will support you. they're out there, I've been having a rough time and was surprised how many
| people gave a shit to check in on me, talk with me, or just put any effort in. you'll be fine op, godspeed
| OP here again, sorry for the changing IDs.
>>d489df thank you so much, anon.
What I'm most scared of is the future. Living in a failing economy is hard. I don't wanna subject my partner and our would-family in poverty. I really have to man up now and work for the sake of our future.
What I'm still nervous about though is to how to break it to our families. My dad expects a lot from me. My family expects a lot of stuff from me.
| I hate that I messed up this bad. I love my partner so much and I don't wanna ruin the future that we both want, and yet we're here.
Thank you for all the encouraging words and support, anons.
I gotta go find a job.
| >>11c245
I would suggest to stop living for your families expectations, and just fulfill your own OP. Only then will you stop freaking out
| >>901280
ain't that just selfish?
plus, it's in our families to just depend on each other. I wish it's that easy.
| anyway, no one's asking for update, I know, but.. we're still waiting for the results of the test.
But I'm not hoping anymore that it'll come back negative. I hope I'm not manifesting this, but the symptoms are all there. Only a matter of time.
| >>901538
...yes, it is. But you need to live for yourself first and foremost. Not to say that you can't help others, but how can you help others when you need to help yourself first and foremost?
| Genuine question, why not get an abortion? It really doesn't seem like either of you actually want this child.
| as far as I know, there's a third option: sending the child to an orphanage; newborns, especially healthy ones, are generally in high demand so it's quite likely that the child will find a foster family
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| I'm still hoping that this is not what's happening, and that I'll still get another chance of making things right, but my chances are getting slimmer, day by day.
I think I'm gonna be a parent now, but I'm not ready yet.
In fact, we're both not ready yet. But, here we are.
My partner and I are going to have a baby. Both of us, still in college. A sophomore, and a senior.
I have no intention of leaving. No intention of any harm to my partner.