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marie kondo
| first is ask yourself if that book you bought brought you happiness
| Cute
| If an object does not sparks joy, it's not beloved. Throw it away.
If a friend's presence does not spark joy. Throw that friend away.
| i wonder how it applies to people who are collectors by nature
like, the collection as a whole sparks joy as does the process of acquiring it, but the objects as they are individually are either useless or just meh in general, like soda cans or whatever
| >>844582 why would collectors feel meh of the things they collect? If I were to collect soda cans I will take pleasure in explaining the history, such as when the can design stop being produced or rhe history of the soda's flavor, naming etc, on request. Otherwise I wouldn't bother. Although maybe that's the difference between collector and hoarder? Surely even someone who hoarde would at least try to remember how they got the thing in the first place.
| >>844650
There are two types of hoarders. The first type must have the things they hoard, regardless of what that thing is. The point is to have more, endlessly more. The second type have a reason and a more diverse collection of items they hoard. The things may be emotionally resonant, or potentially useful, et cetera.
Regardless, Marie Kondo is a psychopath and detrimental for society. Not everything can 'spark joy' all of the time, nor should it.
| Collectors can also become hoarders. I collected miniatures, and still do, but my collection is so large it could now count as a small hoard. Each one has a story to it, and I'm always interested in new pieces (gotta love 3d printing), but I do not have a monomanical desire to endlessly collect.
The trick is to not let it become an obsession. You own stuff, stuff doesn't own you.
| >>844676 You're right. I've been collecting things but I started questioning why I do it. I started to think that what I really want to collect are stories, and objects are just sometimes attached to them. Though I'm still trying to figure out what that really means.
Sometimes even if the stories are meaningful the object just looks ugly and takes up precious space, though. I guess ideally things have nice stories while also look nice when placed in a room.
| I have a small collection of cheap, off-brand pc controllers. I dont use them all since i mainly use my xbox one controller. i orginally bought a few for the off-chance of my friends coming over to play couch coop or comp games. Thats only happened around twice so far since i live pretty far and we all have work and lives to live. I eventually started buying more even if i dont use them. They dont bring me happiness all the time, but they do on the rare chance i have friends over.
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| is a psychopath who can dispose of beloved objects without feeling remorse and preached the ideal.
yes, I bought her book. according to her she got rid of her parents jacket that rarely got worn (what, she expect them to wear jacket all year long??) and never felt guilty. she translated this psychopathy to "how to clean your room", somehow.
and I totally bought it and applied it to relationships. now I have no friends. what do I do?