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How to make friends in college?
| You can start with just one OP. Or maybe start with the person or people you have been talking to online.
| I think your classmates are all on the same boat too
| Just start talking to the first people you meet and you'll be friends for life.
| If any opportunity to bond with your peers comes along, seize it. Study group? Say yes. School club? Say yes. Pizza? Yes. Volunteer work? You get the picture. Try your best not turn down opportunities unless you have a damn good reason. Also, try to become an active participant in whatever way you can. You don't need to be a social butterfly if that's not who you are. It's okay to feel anxious. Start small, just a simple hello will do. Sounds mundane, but little gestures add up.
| Sex drug and drinks is my personality
| Mating press
| Just interact with them, ay? And say yes to stuff. That's about it.
| Damn, all these advices about "just say yes to stuff" is making me sad. I'm just about finished with college now, but back before covid, I often rejected indirect offers to hang out and such.
Thing is I got a chronic pain problem and I don't want to burden them with that. I get very cranky when I'm in pain. But now I don't really have a lot of friends or memories from college.
I hope you'll fare better than I did, op.
| From my experience making friends in college is a meme. Apparently back in boomer times when classes were easy and people were social you could make friends really easily, but I graduated with a bachelors degree and 0 friends from college.
If you aren't already a naturally social person I wouldn't waste the time and attempt to make friends in a more effective way.
| >>835896
You really have no regrets about that? How are you doing now?
Every time I think about how little memories I made in college, it makes me sad.
| >>835896
Not dwelling on the past is one thing, but making a lack of friends a personality trait is another.
I'm not naturally social. I'm autistic, so basically the opposite. But I still put in some effort and made some friends before I dropped out, and it made my time there a lot more bearable. It was that hard either. Literally just talk to people and spend time with them. That's it. It's not some special ability.
Also: >when people were social
Stfu lol.
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| Planning to go back to college next school year, only thing is I’ve been doing online the whole time and the next time will be physical. My social skills have diminished and don’t remember what even to do to start a conversation, please help.