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Her actions have been bugging me for years
| I know that maybe she just saw something in me or felt something in me that made her open up but her other actions beside those thing begs to differ. I want to tell it to someone or share it to other people but the situation i'm in is just impossible (a bit). So maybe just maybe, someone here might want to give this a read and analyze??
I want to share the other stories that she did that actually made my heart flutter which I really didn't wanted to at the first place.
| btw, i'm a female and have been on and off with this app a few years ago. can't believe i basically grew up with this app. it's fun and depressing at times.
| anyway, i just really wanted to have someone to talk to with this since i don't really have the right "friends" that would listen to this pieces of my mind.
| Cool that you have someone who likes you this much.
Do you think her interest in you is romantic or platonic? Not that it's one or the other, but is there any romantic inclination at all?
| >>f2c150 that is what I wanted to know too. From what I've observed, she treated me differently than other people. Maybe she was just amused at my presence but whenever we talk, may it be in chat or in person, she would always add flirty things when there's a chance. I flirt back to her at times cause she's too irresistible but maybe I just fell into her trap.
I was afraid that it'd happen but I started to like her romantically then. It felt wrong but I just can't help it.
| I've never really said a proper thank you to her but whenever someone would say something funny about my body (i'm chubby or what they call fat like 60-70 pounds?) I can see her defending me and telling that person to go off which I rarely see people do for me.
She doesn't do this all the time but the times that I have caught her doing that just made me in awe and admire her more.
| fucking thank her idiot
| I mean I've thanked her at that time! but I think it's not proper and maybe would not be considered sincere because I was laughing or smiling.
Let's just say that my defense mechanism to people is to laugh at their hurtful jokes and at the same time when someone defends me, I don't know how to act since its awkward and I just smile back.
| I should not feel attracted to her since I know she's straight and a close guy friend of mine tells me how much he likes her a lot but I just can't help it really. I'm easy to please and easy to fell.
| I can list the other things that made me question her actions that have been really bugging me for years. Since, this all happened when we were physically at school and that was like 3 or 4 years ago? Now, the contact that we only have is through online and we're not that close to just suddenly talk about things.
See! we're not that close but somehow she's comfortable to me.
| I think it's normal to feel infatuated in your situation. This is someone who made you feel special, yeah? I've been there. Ended up saying some awkward shit that made me feel dumb, but looking back, I did my best. That's all you can do. Do your best, and, if things don't work out, move on with your head held high. As long as you're not creepy about it, telling your crush how you feel can be a tremendous weight off your mind. Idk what the right answer is, but good luck OP.
| >>143c95 thank you really for this. I've been wanting to tell her too to just clear out everything but there's too many factors to consider. First, this will be like an "out" to me. Second, my close friend and I's friendship will change drastically ig. and lastly, i'm too much of a chicken for people like my family and friends to be judged at. I do have friends that I have already outed myself to but they're one of the few open minded people in the world.
| When I think of her, I remember the things that should be treated as a friendly thing but the way she did it was just, felt different.
There was one time when I'm asking for a candy from her because I give her some of mine, she would point the one in her mouth.
Other thing is she would slap my butt out of the blue while I'm standing in front of her.
She teases me a lot to do touchy things but I'm a person who dislikes those things a lot. I don't like attachments.
| I would caught her at times looking at me or at least in our side of the class. She smiles and I smile back.
I don't know what her intention then but there was also this one time when she was eating a lollipop and we caught glances to one another and suddenly she started to eat the lollipop like seductively while looking at me??? i was embarassed for a lot of reasons and she just laughs it off!
| Oh, I can really see now why I can be infatuated to her.
But her back at me?? That's a thing I wanted to from her but I keep forgetting that we're both females and maybe she just liked the reactions I give when she teases me.
| Ok so what I'm noticing from how you write about her, is that you keep trying to put a distance between you and her. I thought it's because you don't really see her as a friend but she likes you a lot, but now I see it's probably you who likes her a lot.
Which is kind of making it difficult to guess what she thinks of you. Like, straight up, the way you talk about her make it seem like she 100% has a crush on you.
| But maybe you're exaggerrating your memory a bit? You sure you're not just selectively picking out the flirty things she do? Does she regularly do these to other people?
Fuck it, just ask her straight up if she likes you.
| >>52d157 I see her as just a friend of mine but because of those actions of hers I started to develop romantic feelings for her. I liked her a lot then no doubt about that.
I guess I wanted to know other people's perspective of why she does those things to me at the first place. That first place when I didn't even batted an eye to her attractiveness.
| >>52d157 And yea, I was thinking about that too earlier. Maybe because it happened a long time ago, I exaggerated it now a bit.
But I swear though, those flirty things it's not imaginary or something i made up since I have always thought about those things ever since before she started doing it.
I just wasn't really sure on how to react to it like should I continue liking her or she's just messing with me as a friend.
| From as fas as I know, she does not do this regularly to other people. Like what I've said earlier, she's the quiet type who only talks with people who she's been friends with a looong time.
But me, just one of her classmates who just meet each other in group activities, why would she do that?? I don't even see myself as a person who can easily attract a person in a first impression basis.
| It makes me giggle these days that I even made a list before about the things that she "questioningly" did to me. Hell, I've even put dates on it as far as I remember lol I can't believe I became that whipped for her.
| >I should not feel attracted to her since I know she's straight
I've been there before ;u;
I think you should tell her how you feel, or at least ask her how she feels. I did the same thing two years ago, and things changed a lot less than I expected. good luck
| Mating press
| >>834190 for me, not really anything changed. I was the one doing most of the flirting, and once I knew things were off the table I just kept doing what I always did and he never complained.
If she's straight but enjoys flirting with you anyways, I would assume she likes flirting with you enough to keep doing it.
That being said I live in a pretty progressive area. I've had other times where I've mentioned that I'm bisexual and get a big overreaction from someone with prejudice,
| so yeah please do be careful. Usually, though, people who are willing to go as far as flirting with you aren't going to be the type to have a Gay Panic.
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| There's this girl in my class before in high school that always showed her interest in me whenever there was a chance. She is known as a quiet person and just always talk loud when she was with her long-time friends only. But for some reason, even if we're not that close, she opens up to me easily. Tells me things that even her friends (ig) doesn't know. And wheneber she runs out of topic, I can hear her mumbling to herself how can she entertain me more.