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How do I stop liking someone?
| Have sex with her.
| >>833535 oh yesss that would be great, oh wait NO!!! That is what I am not trying to do!! /( °A°)/
| That's a tough one. If you had a partner (assuming you don't already), do you think your feelings of attraction to her would disappear?
| Just tell her how you feel. Worst case scenario she gets anxious and creeped out, but this can be adjusted by how you bring it up. Let her know that you have a crush on her but you don't want to ruin your friendship. Usually women appreciate that and it will probably make your relationship deeper even if she doesn't like you back like that.
| mating press.
| ^ this. but for real
| >>833538 maybe, but I'm a bit of an idiot so starting a new quest will probably lead to bad ending
>>833540 I would if I had nothing to lose but I have poor record of doing confessing and ruining the friendship right after
I know my flaws and I know that telling how I'm feeling is not gonna solve it, it's 100% my fault for being a loser but if I knew the best solution I would follow it...
| >>833562 So, what I'm getting from this is that the crush you have on your friend isn't the root of your issue. The main problem is your confidence.
I know this sounds vague and is much easier said than done, but you have to improve your self-esteem. The fact you're asking for help tells me you're not a loser. Losers are content to stagnate. You're here to seek change, and that's a great sign. Idk what will help you personally, but you need to address the confidence issue ASAP.
| >>833568 so should I make a thread on how to boost confidence? In all seriousness I don't know where to start with that, I'm not really popular or even known to begin with, mostly invisible.
| Confidence is all in your head, it's not about how others think of you nor is it about being popular.
In my mind, confidence is being able to act like yourself no matter who you are, it's about not fearing rejection and doing your best and accepting the results no matter what.
To help improve your confidence, start with small stuff like fixing your posture and doing some simple training. A healthy mind starts from a healthy body. After that you can look into doing mindfulness.
| >>833570 That might help. For the record, you don't need to be popular or anything like that. Confidence comes from believing in your own abilities regardless of what other people think about you. It's born from within your own mind, and requires that you accept failure as a necessary element of growth. My advice? Try putting yourself in uncomfortable situations... maybe like striking up conversation with a stranger, joining a hobby group, lifting weights, etc. Challenge yourself.
| Never know she might like you back too? If you don't want to talk to her about it the feelings will only stew so if you really want to get her out of your head, either spend less time together especially if it's just the two of you or go out and meet other women you feel more comfortable having an attraction to. Anyway, best of luck g/u/rl! Unrequited love can be rough to go through but you got this o/
| >>833861 well I'm very sure that she doesn't like me back, she treats me equally to all her other friends and does not show any intent to actually get closer than a friends, I have a lot of exp on being seen as just a friend so it all points to the same results
It's hard to not spend time with her, we go to the same classes and the campus is rather small, meeting other people is complicated but I'm working on it
| >>833962 I wish the best for you, OP. Just keep working on it and you may find that the feelings for her fade faster than you thought once you start branching out
| If you had 5 more of this person in your life would you be content?
If not you're downbad.
If it's genuine you should probably bail or more reasonably just downgrade to acquaintance.
Stick your dick in other memes until the heat goes down. God bless.
| >>834466 I mean yeah, I guess life would be better with 5 of her in my life but at the same time just her is fine and even then I'm already downbad lol.
My IS plan to bail since I know I will screw up as I always do, it's just that idk where and how to start it.
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| There is this woman I'm friends with but she has been living rent free in my mind for 1 month or so, while I do like her, I dont't wanna ruin our friendship
Also I'm 99% she sees me as only friend material