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hi, g/u/rls, i gotta get this out of my chest and ask a bit of question
| we're both still living with our own parents, me, just fresh out of college, while she has still a year or two to go. that's why im so scared, i have no idea what to do.
abortion may be a viable choice, since, we're really still not ready but i want her to decide on what she wants to do, because after all, it's her that's gonna carry our child.
im so anxious, and i dont know if im doing the right decisions or not.
i know ive fucked up so bad but am i doing the right thing..
| ..by not telling her that we should get abortion?
i can reason with her about what life is gonna be for our kid but im afraid that ill hurt her feelings.
and i also feel like she really want us to have a child.
| im afraid, anons, but one thing i know im not gonna do is leave her side.
she tried to push me away couple of times, saying that i should be living the most of my life, and not be stuck with her if she gets pregnant, but i cant do that.
i really love her so much, but its just really scary
| im not ready yet, but i dont plan on leaving her ever, so im running things through my head on what to do next
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| You sound like a nice guy, op. Just, talk things out with her. Don't try to hide any of your feelings about this. If she still wants to have the baby, then respect that decision. I'm sure you two will figure it out.
| Important question OP, are you the same person from that thread about pulling out and vinegar douches?
| >>829809
This. Just fucking talk to her. Communicate. Try to keep a level head though and respect her stance on the matter, but think about what you want out of this as well.
| >>829811 im not, and i will never tell my girlfriend to do that.
when we do it, we do it unprotected and i always pull out. we've been doing that for quite some months now, and not having any of the symptoms. when she wanted me to try condoms (so i wont have to pull out) that's when this happened.
i feel like it's all my fault that we're both having problems now
| >>829809 thank you, anon. i just really don't know what to say, or even what to think first at this point. im really afraid of making the wrong decision, as we both have the tendency to go with each other's decision, even if it is two completely different choices.
i will respect her decision, but it's alright to feel scared and anxious, right?
| >>829812 i know, anon, but im afraid of our decisions being completely different, and whichever we choose is going to greatly affect our lives from here on. we both wanna build a career first and this was really unplanned.
i really dont wanna hurt her feelings. she is really precious to me.
| Good luck OP!
| Are you the OP on /d/ asking about creampie?
| >>829820
For future reference, pulling out doesn't work. Precum still contains sperm and you can get someone pregnant with that alone.
| Дал бог зайку, даст и лужайку
| Good luck, op
| Should've heated your nuts first. Rookie mistake.
| >>829875 im not going to be, of course. but i have a feeling it'll be very devastating for her that it might affect our relationship.
it's hard, anons. to be unprepared. and now im shitting myself here, nervous as hell, blaming myself for being so stupid and careless
im only 22, and she's 19. it is a huge problem that i dont know how to tackle. im so stupid
| If it wasn't planned I think the most mature thing would be to do an abortion. You never agreed on having a child together at this time and it's better to make a decision before it's too late because the more you wait the harder it's going to decide to do it. You should really discuss it and make a RATIONAL decision based on your situation and not on your emotions.
| P.S.
Sorry, because of the first sentense it sounds like I'm saying that the only rational thing is to do an abortion. What I meant to do is provide my view on that and then just push you towards a rational discussion woth your gf. Whatever you decide is up to you ofc. Sorry for sounding like that.
| >>830092
That was unexpectedly polite- I run into a lot of people online who just jump straight to the abortion route. (not OP.)
| Congrats on being a dad!
| Now, if she gets an abortion, your relationship will end. Being unprepared is scary, but since you two both live at home, that implies you are on good terms with your parents. Pregnancies can take up to 2 weeks to detect, and while being off her period is odd, it's not confirmation. Talk to your dad, ask for his support and advice. You sound like a great guy, and I wish you two all the happiness. And if you both agree to not have kids right now, there is always adoption.
| >>830148
Gosh, now I re-read my post and saw all these typos... Anyways, thanks for being a nice person yourself!
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| so umm
i might have messed up and impregnated my girlfriend. she's 4 days late now, and i feel like ive seen some of the symptoms on her.
i was very very stupid and i should have been more careful, but i cant dwell on it now. im very very nervous and i don't know what to do, to be honest. im so anxious on what to do next