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Write about how lonely you feel
| I'm so far beyond touch starved the idea of someone shaking my hand makes me want to cry.
| Pretty lonely, but it is fine.
| Does my loneliness counts if I feel comfy with it?
| I haven't had a crush in over two years. i don't even have the dream of the remote possibility of cuddling with someone anymore, just loneliness
| a cuddle would be really nice
| I've been at my college for two years and still don't really know anybody. I should be out having all sorts of sex! but mostly I just stay in my room.
| What's nuts to me is that all of this tech is made to make it easier to be in touch with people. Yet it's harder than ever to make friends and to have a meaningful relationship. When there is an oversaturation if connections and ways to connect. It makes them less meaningful... At least that's what I think. I'm so lonely that I constantly look for affection. Often times, from the worst places and in the worst ways.. pandemic didn't help either.
| >>815837 exactly my thoughts. I'm surrounded by people and classmates yet I feel more lonely than when I was on my own.
| "I'm so lonely that I constantly look for affection"
I've been kind of caught up in this loop as well recently, it kinda makes me think that I'm not really at peace with myself as much as I thought I was back in summer.>>815837
| I get social anxiety when passing groups of people in vr chat, then get scared and leave when people pretend to be sex dynamos in furry costumes. Probably the closest I've been to a social function since uni.
Ooh and there was this time when a new coworker was a really physically affectionate person in a nice way and i had to tell them it made me uncomfortable because i wasn't used to it.
I've crossed the loneliness rubicon and it's pretty pathetic :/
| >>815940
I'm pretty sure that even non-lonely people leave when they encounter people who pretend to be sex dynamos in furry costumes...
| >>815837
It's not about the oversaturation of connections, I think. It's more about how expressly meaningless those connections are made. Now people say they "made a friend" by friending someone on social media, and then don't put any effort into maintaining a friendship.
| I do not feel lonely for I am not a antisocial-media addicted brainlet. I choose who I spend my time and energy with and on and it pays me back. Simply do not choose to form vapid relationships and you will not have vapid relationships.
| >>816064
Project harder. Incels blame the world for being lonely. I put the responsibility on myself to form connections. Nice attempt at being a parrot for quick validation, maybe you'll be able to properly use a buzzword eventually if you keep trying.
| I want to scream but I don't know what others will think. I want to talk but I don't know if they'd understand. I want to cry but I don't know what they'd say. I had a fallout with my best friend/crush and now I don't even have someone I can trust to take my venting. I'm so incredibly lonely even in the presence of people.
| I'm so touch starved when I get drunk I start crying because I just want a fucking hug from my friends like wtf, I've been going more than 2 years without a hug from the homies...
Also some nights I dream of someone holding me, playing with my hair and kissing me in the face and those are the only dreams I fucking remember, I need a fucking bf/gf/couple/bitches
| https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=BYwWKEc8c88
| >>816066
You still sound like a stereotypical lonely incel, even moreso after that reply... If you're as socially clueless in real life as you behave in this thread then you're obviously lying about your non-incel persona.
But sure, keep acting like you're better than everyone if it helps you cope with yourself.
| >>816117 dude stop antagonizing each other, that's not the point of the thread. He lives his life his way, you live yours your way.
| >>816143
I'm just treating him the same way he treats other people. If he got a problem with that it's his own fault. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
| I hate how I don't even know where to go to find a new real friend or anything. All the usual places a normal person would suggest are ones exclusively home to kinds of people I'm not looking for. I hate hookup stuff because sex is awful, I hate feeling like I don't have the time in my day to go out on uncertain quests to find someone, I need just another tired nerd loser like me to kiss.
| I don't even need a romantic or sexual relationship, I just want someone who's comfortable with me touching them, and who's comfortable touching me.
| >>816190 word man. The hookup stuff is draining. I feel like an item everytime someone suggests it to me.
| i guess this isnt really loneliness but more just venting. r broke up and my ex about 3 weeks ago and they already moved on and we agreed to stay close friends. but its been fucking me over how theyve been making moves with this guy i know. they told me they might fuck or whatever, that hes so sweet and kind yadda yadda. it kinda hurts yk. and even worse theyre the only one i like in this god foresaken place full of horrible people who are unbearable. i just want them bro.
| >>816557 have enough self respect to walk away completely. You don't need to be putting up with that shit. Friends or not it ain't good for you.
| TBH I didn't really notice how touch starved and lonely I was until I was cuddled up with someone recently. Though tbh I think I'd rather die than improve my life.
| >>816577 that's kinda the dilemma I have also. I'm touch starved, but I'm so scared of contact that I usually end up pushing others away. I honestly don't remember the last time I hugged someone. Might've been three years ago with my mom at the airport.
| >>816594 that somewhere along the way they'd come to hate me. Doesn't have to be a big thing, I cut people off just because I feel anxious about them. Fear of rejection. Can't be rejected if I reject them first.
| >>816649 Embrace the rejection, g/u/rl. It fucking stings at first, but rejection is an important slice of a well-rounded life. I know that sounds like an empty platitude, but it's crucial to learn if you want to beat your anxiety. It's hard as shit to do too. I wrestle with my crippling fear of failure and rejection and shame every single second of every single day. I get it. The best path forward is to start helping yourself NOW or find someone who can. Don't let this fester.
| >>816666 the thing though, is that once the bad vibes take me, it snowballs and eventually crashes into me, incapacitating me for a good long while, and I can't afford to let that affect my work. I barely scrape by enough to survive as is.
| >>816702 I feel that. You're in a rough situation, no doubt. I don't know you, and I'm not gonna sit here and pretend like I'm a pro, but sounds like you've got some past baggage that needs to be dealt with. Sooner or later, something's gotta give. Many ways to address an issue like this, but you'll have to find the right one on your own. When you're ready though. And don't be afraid to reach out, if only to internet strangers. Even what you've said in this thread is good I think.
| >>816705 haha, thanks. I feel like I've come a long way myself. Even reflecting on my words now feels really weird, but never having done so is what created the rift with my friend in the end. Baby steps, I suppose.
| >>816706 That's a good attitude. I find the best way to process my negative shit is to get it out ASAP. Meaning, put it to words, just like you've done. Often you're not really sure why you feel a certain way until you articulate it with words. My favourite way is literally just talking out loud, like an auto-conversation. Journaling works too, as does talking with an actual person. Meditation is a little too woo-woo for most people, but I think it's also great. Best of luck, anon.
| >>71d57d dude, i know you're human and you have flaws, but you're a king in my eyes for the incredible advice you gave to this man
| I received only one message "happy birthday, old ass bitch" and it was from myself.
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