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I am a horibble bf
| And i am afraid of losing her. She says that she is very tired of arguing about same topic since everytime we talk it comes to us not meeting physically one way or the other. I feel super depressed about it and i am very much afraid of losing her.
| You gotta just, stop. If you can't handle being a relationship like that then don't be in it, and don't take it out on her. That's just gonna be a sad experience for both of you.
Not everyone is cut out for relationships where you don't get to meet up much. That ain't really your fault, and I'm sorry it's like that, but if you can't handle it then it's not a good idea to force it.
| OP here, I am trying and i feel like i am getting better but i couldn't show her that yet. I understand what i have to do i just don't know how to suddenly feel okay about it. I am mess rn and i don't want to lose her cause i am stupid.
| >>85c2dd you've maybe invested too much of yourself into the relationship. Like romeo juliet type beat, step back and find other things to enjoy or partake in. You'll be better for it.
It sounds like you love them very much but try not to apply EA level crunch to a relationship. You probably know what you ought to do, but getting there emotionally can be difficult but I'm sure you'll make the effort.
| I will, i'll do my best. It's really hard to change and not feel bad when she is with her friends and not me. I should stop pushing her to be with me. God i feel really bad right now
| >>814919
Yeah, you definitely gotta get some hobbies. Destress a bit. Ain't healthy to just sit there feeling all bad and sad.
| Thank you so much for the advice g/u/rls. You rule. I'll do what it takes. Maybe even post an update if things get good. Thanks people it means a lot to me.
| Of course!
I wish you the best!
| Dude, buy a car or get a motorcycle. The latter is a lot of fun and makes you forget about stupid shit.
| >>814871
This is like your first and probably last warning, OP. You need to make a change immediately. Either suck it up and endure the distance or break up with her and save both of yourselves further heartbreak.
| The fact that she says she's tired of arguing* is your first and last warning.
If she really is so amazing and you can't stand to lose her, fucking act like it.
| >>611c96 OP i think conceded to the point and you coming off the top belt on to a corpse is not helpful and only really satisfies yourself.
| >>85c2dd I can say from personal experience. That investing 100% of yourself into another person, significant other or not. It's a bad move... I poured my heart soul and body out for a girl. And after 4 years of fighting for the relationship she called it quits.
Do NOT get accustomed to something or someone being in your life. You will resent it's absence.
| I totally under understand you guys's point. I just need to endure her absence and basically get a life. I study medicine and this situation is affecting our study life as well
| >>815896 it's not even enduring it. You need to be comfortable to function on your own. If anything I feel like distance will make you guys miss each other more.
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| I have an amazing gf who is lovely but we study medicine in different universities in same city. It it is really hard and we hardly find time for each other. Problem is she goes out and spends time with her colleagues while i do the same but i still get jealous. Sometimes i feel like i am pushing her to meet with me even to we message/talk most of the time it feels like her not being here physically hurts me. I even get verbal about it. We argue about it very often these days.