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Autism
| I know asking about something like this on an anon forum is probably autistic in itself, but still.
I definitely feel like there is something that's different. Like, obviously, all people are different, but the way I think and stuff seems to have a lot of differences from the people around me.
I have talked to friends and stuff about it and they say that they wouldn't be surprised if I had something like that due to my different behaviour and stuff.
| My dad has thought I may have it for a really long time. He hasn't been very direct with it, but it's been pretty obvious.
I think another thing might be what I'm able to do and not, and what I'm able to focus on or memorise. Like, I can remember details of rules text probably a couple hundred Magic cards no problem, but I can't remember what I did yesterday or what someone said a few sentences ago. There's a lot of other small things like that, but I want to talk to you g/u/rls.
| Short term memory is weird, and events that are not out of the ordinary are harder to remember.
Details can be easy to remember, they're what makes things unique, or beautiful, or shocking, or troubling... Yknow, stuff you notice !
Memory feels like it is different for each of us. Even if we can all do the same, we may do it very differently.
Can your meeting with a specialist be postponed without harm ?
(also stay home and play magic arena)
| I'm autistic. Usually the most common signs of autism I notice between me and my peers are that we don't speak until age 5, we have special interests we fixate on, and we get incredibly stress under overwhelming sound.
We're also typically literal, especially if we're not actively studying how vocal tones and subtle facial expressions work. For me, it was extra hard because growing up with both American and Asian cultures sends me mixed messages on social norms.
| >>638373
Well, it's not exactly that I remember details and not other stuff. It's what details I fixate on. It's hard to describe, but might not have anything to do with this.
>>638398
I probably fixate on my hobbies a lot more than I'd like to admit. Very loud sounds (if that's what you mean) can be distressing. When I was in kindergarten I avoided all the kids except one or two because they were too loud for me.
| >>638398
I'm not sure what you mean by literal. Could you elaborate?
I feel like I'm pretty good at reading other people's tone and body language and social cues, but I don't really express them well myself. People sometimes have a hard time figuring out if I'm joking or not because of my flat tone.
| >>638403 well, usually when I hear sarcasm or an analogy, first thing that comes to mind is the literal meaning. Especially if I'm hearing it for the first time.
You'd be surprised at what social cues fly over our heads. Some stuff I only find out because someone points them out to me.
Also I've had people have a hard time knowing if I'm joking too. That's something I still can't pinpoint because what feels normal or weird varies wildly between autistics and neurotypical.
| >>638411
Ah. I usually don't have a hard time understanding stuff like that though. Maybe because I've consumed a lot of media that uses tons of analogies and stuff, and I understand and use casual sarcasm pretty often.
Well, yeah. I wouldn't doubt it. I have a friend who has Asperger's though, and I'm definitely a lot better than him at reading social cues and stuff.
I joke a lot. Like, most of the time. So with a monotone voice it's probably hard to understand all the time.
| They do understand most of the time though, but sometimes they confuse things for me being serious when I thought it was obvious that I wasn't.
| >>638418 Aspergers IS autism, actually. In recent years, they were put together because autism is a spectrum of symptoms.
| >>638429
Yeah, I know. The reason I specified the type is because I'm pretty sure I don't have Asperger's, but I think I might have some other form of it.
| So, I talked for a a bit with someone who has Asperger's and knows other people on the spectrum and then a parent who's child is on the spectrum.
What I got out of it was basically them saying that my symptoms were obvious signs of autism and that I very much have it.
I've thought I had it for a good while now, because I've noticed some symptoms and stuff on my own, but now I'm pretty much convinced.
| I've been mulling about this myself too actually. I now know I also have autism because I tend to be very straight-forward and literal, going so far as to deconstruct a joke that was told and try to turn the entire thing into a serious discussion.
| >>638812
That just sounds like you're no fun.
Joking aside though, what other symptoms do you have? Just that alone doesn't necessarily mean you have autism.
| There *are* other things I wonder. Like, is being unsympathetic a sign of autism too? I can be empathetic and worry or feel joy for people, but it's hard to put myself in their shoes. For example: glossing over nudging remarks, seeming detached in a conversation, or even stuff like giving Sei a Bleeding Jane instead of a Blue Fairy. The last part tends to happen in real life too, and it's even worse when you realize for a while afterwards when you play back the event in your head.
| >>638817
That is a symptom of autism, yeah. I too do have empathy and stuff, but I can be pretty cold at times without really thinking about it before afterwards, as you said.
| Sounds like you are on the Autistic spectrum.
| >>638817 >>638822 I don't believe a lack of sympathy is a symptom of autism.
We only look that way because people expect us to be mind readers and automatically know what's wrong. But how can we know if we're uninformed?
Sympathy is a two way street and I find neurotypicals come off as unsympathetic to autistics because they don't understand how we think and feel.
| >>639311
Idk. I can read people pretty clearly even though I'm definitely on the spectrum. It's just that I think more logic oriented than feeling oriented at times.
>>639285
Yeah, I'm, like, 99% sure I am.
| >>639324 oh I'm not saying you can't read people. I'm saying that neurotypicals don't realize we show empathy. While it is hard to put ourselves in their shoes, the other way around can be said as well. If I didn't know how much trouble NTs had around autistic people, I'd still assume they're all trying to be annoying and unhelpful.
| >>639356
Ah. Yeah, I guess that makes sense. I try to show empathy, but it probably doesn't register all the time.
| I have autism. Once you're old enough to not have ppl around u try to force u into society it's not that bad. (medium cases). Makes life easy as ur priorities seem to be clearer
| >>639691
Yeah. I'm trying to get my parents and stuff to understand that getting through school and stuff normally really isn't something I'm able to do, and even now that I'm a drop out they continue talking about it a lot. I hate it.
| I'm just confused now man.
| If I have autism it would kind of explain everything I've been confused about with myself my entire life and I have a lot of symptoms, but, like, what if I don't have it? Idk. I'm confused. I'm not sure how to feel about it.
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| I know this is a memeable topic, but I'm legit asking for advice.
I'm currently being investigated by therapist to find out if I am on the autism spectrum, but due to COVID everything like that has been cancelled. Online I can only find information about the "typical" autism, aka high functioning.
It's very clear I don't have that. I function mostly properly, but I'm wondering how I can identify milder forms of autism.