G/u/rl... I'm fckn tired
| I was scared because I thought she might hurt herself even more, so I woke up my mom to figure out what to do. My mother has a lot of experience dealing with mentally ill people, and so she convinced me it was just an attempt to get attention. I calmed down and decided to take my mind off things by playing a game. When I left the game, I saw that she was online, but she hadn't responded to a bunch of my calls and messages. Not a word. I'm just upset.
| She knows that she made me worry a lot, but she can't even write a simple "I'm ok.".
| Your mom is right, ignore that friend if she doesnt react after 2-3 calls. It is not your duty to care that much.
| >>1076615
This. The best advice I've ever gotten was that you can't help everyone. Some people just saps your energy when you care for them and if she ignores you it's not your responsibility to chase her. She'll get in touch when she's ready so try reaching out at a later date.
I don't know enough about the situation but based on what you said it really sounds like an attempt to get attention.
| It's not like you don't want to be there for her, you obviously do, but you CAN'T be there for her even when you want to for very good reasons. If she doesn't want to understand that and get upset over it it's her loss even if she might be going through some really unfair and hard shit right now. You can't squeeze water out of a stone.
| you done enough, she doesn't want your help and that's a choice.
| don't got anything to add but good on you for knowing your limits though
| >>1076608
That’s seriously scary and I really hope you’re doing ok too. :< This will pass. You will see friends die. You can only grow and help those who remain.
| If we had sex together I think this would alleviate most of your problems you have going on
| Listen to your mom. Stop giving this friend attention. Next time they threaten suicide, tell them to do a flip.
| I hope you will be okay OP, put your own needs first and take a break okay? And don't feel guilty! (I hope your friend will be okay too)
| >>1076929
This line is so gross, it enforces the idea ofb suicide as performance rather than just a waste.
| >>1077026
In this situation, the threats of suicide *are* performative. Ergo, it is an appropriate response, as it signals to the performer that they are being recognized as performative. Not acquiescing to the repeated demands for attention, but instead rebuffing them signals that the threat is no longer effective and, as with other mental conditions like panic attacks, introducing absurdity can break the mental cycle and assist in healing trauma.
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| I have a close friend. She has attempted suicide twice, and recently came out as trans-girl. Y'know, she's a good friend of mine, but today she called me in discord and said she'd hurt herself. I tried to support her, but I told her honestly, that I'm just a high school student and she needs help from a real professional. She freaked out, went offline, and ignored my phonecalls.