...*Sigh*
| *hug *
I do too but mine are online and sometimes I wonder if we have a real connection but I was talking to one tonight and she’s so cute and cool. I want to meet them irl and hug them. Can you do irl stuff with yours?
| I had a friend like that before. I left him when I realised he can’t be saved. I severed our friendship after his another half-assed attempt to die half a year ago. It was not an easy decision, I loved him and still do.
But this is not the end!
He reached out to me a couple of weeks ago. I was so happy and felt so much warmth to hear from him. He wanted to resume our friendship. I was happy!
| However, I asked how was he. You guessed it, his life is even worse than before. He returned to his dysfunctional parents that are the cause of his condition.
I declined his offer. It was painful hearing his reaction but then I felt a SO MUCH relief. You don’t realise how much energy it takes from you after they are gone.
So, half a year ago I thought maybe I made a mistake. But after he reached out to me I realised that it was one of my best decisions in my life.
| Several things helped me:
- Support from other people. Nobody judged me and most people who I tried to get validation from said “well, yeah, your decision makes sense”.
- I realised that him damaging himself is a strategy to get something from me. I WILL pour my emotional energy when someone dear to me is close to death. I can’t fight against it and he knows it (subconsciously).
- I also got something from our friendship. Suffering in a relationship is my strategy to get something.
| So, don’t know if this is your case gurl but I know for sure that is not easy to have friends like that sometimes! Cheers
| as a depressed friend trying to get better, thank you for being there op. its hard, especially when you can't get the professional help you really need, but caring friends at least give me a reason to keep trying, even when i really don't want to. i hope your friends find peace soon, and i'm sorry for the strain it puts on you to keep them going. i can't speak for them but if they're like me, you are helping, even if it doesn't feel like it.
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| I have really depressed friends. Like two of them even tried to kill themself.
And... It's really hard, to have friends like that, y'know?
I love them with my entire soul, but I wanna burst in tears then I see how fucked up their life is and I can't do anything about it.
It's like seeing the drama movie, but irl and with bad ending.
And sometimes I think, that I can't take it anymore and just wanna leave them. But I can't. They are my friends after all and I still love them...