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Libido mismatch between lovers, problem?
Post number #1050986, ID: dbf66f
| Well relationship advice is the hot topic rn, so might as well!

so my gf has a low libido as she stated, I on the other hand have a high one. I never ever would want to make my dear uncomfortable, but my body is on constant bombardment to my thoughts.

We are a great match and have been going quite smooth, been 4-5 months. I never would like to rush too. So like, should I just keep repressing my thoughts? Chill out? Problem?
What are you g/u/rls thoughts and experiences?

Post number #1050992, ID: dbf66f
| should also state, I am not so bombarded when she is around.D Still quite potential to derail...

Post number #1050994, ID: fe3588>>1051002
| buy a dog, fuck the dog

Post number #1051002, ID: 63350e
| >>1050994 op never said she's white

Post number #1051004, ID: c84d71>>1051020
| masturbation? masturbation?? masturbation??? what happen to masturbation?

Post number #1051012, ID: 3c06f7>>1051020
| Everyone can be white if they want to be!

That’s tough OP. I’m scared that will happen to me. I wonder if hormones could reduce it. I hope someone here has had a relationship and can talk.

Post number #1051020, ID: dbf66f
| >>1051004 thats also one way of dealing, rather not though. Thanks g/u/rl.

>>1051012 I mean its not bad, if your whole purpose in life aint having sex.

Post number #1051061, ID: 8a796e
| Wait untill she turns 35 and you are still 24, this should settle the things down

Post number #1051075, ID: 0d57d2>>1051081>>1051097
| Yeah but it’s bothering you and you can’t take care of it with masturbation, which implies you want to have sex, and she doesn’t, and that’s sad :<

I met a Christian ‘guy’ today who was talking about struggling with masturbation and I told them it was probably because of testosterone and they said that they read this one Bible verse over and over many times and god removed the desire from their mind for over a year now so maybe you can do that for your sex drive

Post number #1051081, ID: 64266a>>1051097>>1051112
| >>1051075
how do dudes have the energy to masturbate so much????
i am physically and mentally spent after i orgasm once

Post number #1051097, ID: dbf66f>>1051112
| >>1051075 We're still a child of god, huh? I'll keep that in mind cheers!

>>1051081 I think that depends on the intensity, why not ask fellow g/u/rls in a thread.

Post number #1051109, ID: 0819b0>>1051112>>1051126
| Maybe you should communicate with her with more honesty and more depth.
Masturbation could sate your desires, while still trying to be loyal and tactful to her

Post number #1051112, ID: 6d8889>>1051126
| >>1051097
Oh I didn’t think the God actually had powers or whatever I just thought it was interesting
>>1051109
Oooh can you give us an update about your romance toooo for a positive thing OP? Maybe you can hold hands :3

>>1051081
You can be mentally spent and keep going when you have nothing else in your life which is some. Also testosterone can cause it particularly if you inject a bunch

Post number #1051126, ID: dbf66f
| >>1051109 Yea thats exactly what I've in mind. Being an open book is a disaster preventer.

>>1051112 I was keeping it humorous by saying that lol, but it is interesting like you said.

I wont be talking that to her right now. Should wait for a time to discuss it. I'm in no rush.

Nah I do have lots to do, thats pretty helping actually now that you mention it. Still Its fun to think about her whenever. Also I don't inject nothing but would have been an agent to cause it.

Post number #1051141, ID: 3c06f7
| <3 thanks g/u/rl I don’t think you should and I bet you know how this works too

Post number #1051143, ID: 043b62>>1051264
| If you fuck rarely, each sex will be super cool

Post number #1051233, ID: ba70f9>>1051248>>1051258>>1051264
| Me and my wife of 3 years are similar. Her libido is a lot lower than mine. What's been working for me has been masturbation. I was hesitant to earlier in our relationship for various reasons, but once I got over those mental blocks it's been a solid solution. Feels a lot healthier now
We're also poly which helps a bit too of course, but my other two lovers live pretty far away at the moment, so some good toys has been the main and most effective solution
Good luck g/u/rl <33

Post number #1051248, ID: 043b62>>1051249
| >>1051233 reddit gold

Post number #1051249, ID: 3c06f7>>1051264>>1051297
| The thing I’d be so scared of is her not loving me if she doesn’t want sex with me and wants others. Why does she like you? I want a wife some day, I think your cool keep it up <3
>>1051248
Reddit kiss!

Post number #1051258, ID: 0819b0>>1051300
| >>1051233 >poly
Oh mah gah... I wish you stick together, because the things I've heard about polycules...

Post number #1051264, ID: dbf66f
| >>1051143 Hell yeah!

>>1051233 Reddit hug!

>>1051249 Exactly the same, thanks a lot <3 <3!

Post number #1051282, ID: 9928c0>>1051301
| i have a similar problem, been with my boyfriend for 4 years but my libido is way too high.
I Would masturbate 3 times a day and have sex with him either every day or every 2 days, problem is as soon as he cums, he's spent, and i Want to keep going.

Smoking weed has helped, makes orgasms a lot more intense, but sometimes even this is not enough.
We ended up opening our relationship, he says he's not interested in going out with ther people but I need a second lover :(

Post number #1051297, ID: ba70f9
| >>1051249
We do have sex, just not super often, and there's a lot more to love than sex. I can tell how much she loves me in the way she treats me, the way she looks at me, the dedication to wanting to be with me forever even when having other lovers, our honest and open conversations devoid of jealousy
I also know how much I love her even while I have so much love for others too, so I know very well that it's possible

Post number #1051300, ID: b3f66f
| >>1051258 kinda this

Post number #1051301, ID: b3f66f
| >>1051282 certified sl/u/t

Post number #1051324, ID: 6f1f5c
| Wow I want love too that’s cool i really hope it lasts

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