I don't want big boobs
| It's weird because like technically they're saying a positive thing but the way they do it and how long it's been has just kind of warped it to a weird sense of discomfort
Like maybe I should just rock it and go along with it, but for some reason that just feels so hard. It feels like I'm lying to myself and to others because I really don't feel like I have big boobs
It honestly feels like I'm not allowed to have big boobs, but I don't really get why
Help me out g/u/rls :(
| erm..
| you're "my boobs speak louder than my words" personality
| They are jealous of you. It is much harder for a girl to be beautiful than to be smart.
Men are probably paying attention to you, so you can talk to them instead. There is no other way I am afraid. Girls around you will always compare themselves to you and they will always lose.
| So, boob jokes are a way to take out their frustration around the fact that you are more attractive. Simple as that.
| You will stop feel shitty about this once you accept three things:
1. You want acceptance for who you are from your friends and your mother.
2. It is impossible for them to accept you for who you are because you are more attractive.
3. You CAN get acceptance from other sources. Therapy is one of them if you are lucky (you can look for an attractive female therapist, she will probably relate to you). Men are the other thing but not as good.
| >>46580d I think we somehow skipped over that like this is my family and they're all in happy relationships. So I really don't think that's the case g/u/rl
idk I mean we're all g/u/rls here so I figured someone might've had a similar experience they could speak from. If this was a stranger I wouldn't care but like it's my family, they mean a lot to me you know
| It is just a theory, don't take it too seriously.
They are probably doing the jokes subconsciously.
I think family is important but I also think that being jealous of your child is kind of weird. You are not supposed to be in a competition, right?
Anyway, these are just my thoughts g/u/rl . You can totally ignore them if they are off the mark, I don't mind.
Good luck and be happy! Hope others can help you even more.
| >>46580d Thanks g/u/rl
I know it's really not that deep but you know, little things add up over time
Maybe I should just try to not think about it
| I have to see it..
| i wanna mush my face in it..
| Sorry, we only have flat lesbians here...
| >>1048535 maybe you could try something that makes your mind wander off, like if you like table games, play a DnD campaign, or read books that you like!
Maybe you could also try something new? Like drawing or writing stories?
| >>1048490 Depends on how much it actually hinders you. If it's just comment about your boobs by your family members and such, it's just part of your body that you should just try and acknowledge!
But if it's like back breaking level, then assuming you're at legal age where your body has stopped developing, you can go for a breast surgery reduction!
>>46580d said it best though about acceptance and possible therapy if things are really that terrible. (^ｰ^)
| T0T just improve your back muscles dont chop off da boobies
| It's sad but people with big bubblers tend to exude a certain energy and if you don't match it you get bullied for not meeting expectations.
Kinda like a big black dude with small pp energy.
>Society
| Paizuri
| They shouldn’t tease you-good friends make you feel good about yourself! I guess my family don’t sometimes make me feel that way either. I dunno. I wish I had something for the not feeling allowed too. :< ur a nice g/u/rl and you should be able to be how you feel safe and energized and yourself!
| https://youtu.be/sO2_0W5SohA
| >rick rolled
| >>1048622 Ue, I guess I'll keep trying to do that then. It's hard but I guess that's why therapy would be a good idea yeah. So I'll consider that (even though it's so expensive lmao)T-T
>>1048664 Thanks g/u/rl T-T
| >>1048774 Depending where you live, there could be a financial aid for therapy at your country. You should look into that so that it doesn’t become too much of a burden when you appoint for one. ( ・∇・)
| Paizuri!
| I get you g/u/rl. I got a lot of comments on my body growing up and it's not a good time. Being objectified by your own family feels really off and makes you feel insecure about like everything. I don't really know how to solve it though because for me it didn't start getting better until after having cut off most my family. That's not a fun decision and not really an option for everyone, so I hope you can find a way g/u/rl cause it sucks bad
| >>1048810 Yeahh, you get it g/u/rl. Honestly hearing that someone else understands exactly what it's like and how it feels is a little nice. Like it's a little validating to hear that yeah this is a thing that happens to others and it does suck
Because it does!
But yeah, I hear that. I've talked to them few times about it, but it's like they conveniently forget later on
Cutting them off sounds too far, but I don't know. Maybe I just have to keep trying and communicating idk
| >>1048819
Yeah I'm not suggesting it as a solution. My reasons for cutting them off was way more than one thing, they gave me PTSD so it kinda had to be done
It's a very simple boundary you've set though, and having such an incredibly easy to follow boundary be disrespected feels real bad. Makes you doubt yourself and can kill trust
What you talked about with the other g/u/rl about seeing a therapist can be good for you though, and I'm glad it helps to know you're not alone <3
| paizuri..
| I’m really glad you’re talking about this my mom has talked about how this kinda thing hurt her too
| I hope things will work out for you. Mine are not really big but I still prefer to not go outside without a binder...
| Give'em to me
| share your tit's fat 300 gram for each gurl on here rn
| give pics..and give me PAIZURI
| PAIZURI!!! ;A;
| I love paizuri.
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| Hey g/u/rls, I don't really know how to talk about this one tbh
So, I was a bit of a late bloomer you see. I didn't really get boobs until I turned 15
But then it happened and I don't even think I'm big, but my family LOVES to comment and tease about how I have big boobs. It makes me feel guilty too because like my mother always says how she's jealous and stuff
It's been years and they keep doing it
Do any g/u/rls have any advice on how I can stop feeling shitty about this?