Sincerity
| I'm sure this thread will fill with the usual /u/ memes or something ironic and negative
| Well I play a kinda extreme character but that character is who I wish I could be. I DO want to have cute sex with everyone.
And I DO kinda enjoy being witty. My friend posted on discord a thing about how he missed playing black ops with his friends from the bus in middle school, and I said we were the real black ops all along, which made him give me a really big response gif and I think he smiled. I don’t like black ops and I was kinda making light of it, but we both felt better.
| As to the funny reply… yeah. It’s the panopticon. Everything being a performance. There’s something really beautiful in dancing with your friends and something really awful about dancing for a staring mob. You need to know people can help you I think and that they care. The culture of ‘based’ means you’re always close to being driven out, and for some reason no one has power to meaningfully stand by their friends, at least the loudest people I see don’t.
| So they’re all trying to prove their worth in not quiet, but ‘cool’ desperation. Or maybe they really do enjoy it but they accept there will never be real human connection.
I don’t think large crowds of strangers are conducive to intimacy. Have you tried smaller discords?
Oh- and intimacy is necessary to have sex and have fun!!! ^^
| >>1034754
No yeah, ofc we can't be serious 24/7. People have to judge when's the right time. I just know some people who are like that nonstop. I have tried smaller artists Discords and I found them to be largely the same. On two different occasions the artist stopped interacting with the Discord because there were no meaningful conversations happening I suppose.b
| I got in a secret Discord that's just artists working on their shit and it's been super nice though!
I really appreciate you giving a genuine response g/u/rl! Legitimately makes me happy, I don't use /u/ much but, when I do, I only post and never reply. I felt the need to give a reply this time around. I hope you do have lots of cute sex. :)
| I can notice that social phenomena as well. As for the why it can get complicated finding the factors behind this.
When I read this thread it came to my mind the thought that "being funny on social media" is one of our main ways to cope with the world around us. Additionally, it provides a relatively safe form of interacting with others without being "too vulnerable" and open hearted.
Is this situation ideal or healthy? I don't know.
But I hope being sincere and connecting with
| Connecting with others become something trendy and popular. It may improve and brighten our lives if that happened.
I'm secretely wishing that some high-level mind/heart sharing virtual reality Technology lead us into becoming an empathic and sincere society of kind human beings.
Deep within, I can feel that most people want peace. We want more kindness, we want to feel understood and loved. We want to love and understand others too.
For that to happen, I think we need to
| We need to understand ourselves better.
I mean it not in a "hippie" or vague way, I mean it literally. We should improve our understanding of human behaviour, of the human mind and dive into the root of our emotions and their origins.
May our intentions and endeavors yield good results in this important search.
| I do agree with you, g/u/rl. From my personal perspective, I'd blame the amount of ease things like social media has given to humanity's tendency to project an image of an ideal self we want to be seen as. I did had my edgelord stage, and after I realized anger is a bright, yet not warm flame, being seen as a quick-tempered, dangerous individual lost its value. And then, the idea of being seen as something I'm not lost its purpose, too. Life got harder, but way more enjoyable, too.
| Now, I believe in the importance of being honest with yourself first, and then being honest with others, more as an extension of the first principle than anything else. It's good to have goals, or an idea of who you want to become, but that's different from taking your idea of your ideal self and shoving it down everyone's throats by whatever means available. Living in sincerity feels like genuinely living. Not sure everyone would see the value in making peace with yourself though.
| >>1034757
I’m sorry to hear that. I actually haven’t made any deep friends on discord but I think I have the beginnings of some relationships, it’s unclear though, and I’m in a lot of channels which are like public places where everyone is holding themselves aloof. People have always been like that in cities, or so I hear. But I think small groups are necessary but not sufficient for love to blossom ~
And thanks ; )
| >>1034762
I think safety is the main thing yeah. But I’m happy to hear other ideas too!
>>1034763
I worry that people follow the trendy and popular to blend in and be safe, so there would be some real intimacy encouraged, but most of it would be another mask if done on mass social media.
And yes!!! I totally agree and am in some groups which want to build that kind of thing too. I luv ya and I hope you can share that love with someone today too ^^
| Sincerity is nice. I enjoy banter more than anyone being Scottish irl but dealing with endless irony bro shite is tiring and makes me less likely to trust that person or want to hang out.
| >>1034777
I liked ‘bright but not warm flame’ : )
I think you’re right but I’m not sure where to draw the boundary between playing a character and pushing yourself.
| This is a very nice post, it's a welcome surprise.
It's true that there's alot of sarcasm around and shit, can't go anywhere without seeing it.
Being genuine honestly allowed me to make a bunch of friends on discord, that and a few people irl also. Being funny or sarcastic in front of friends is alot more fun and enjoyable.
| >>1034795 Glad you liked it. I've been told I have a way with words before, and that's the best way I can explain that realization.
As for the character, you might enjoy reading Carl Jung's work. In short, he elaborated on the characters we decide to play given our circumstances, and the fact that different social circles punish some conducts, and how this shapes the "masks" we wear. Yet, one of his most powerful ideas is that, behind the mask, lies a human being.
| Initially, the plan was to educate myself as much as I could, in order to be able to see traces of the person behind every single change of role they made, in an effort to understand them better. The unintended result was gaining a deeper understanding of my own being and actions. Turns out, most of what I did in the past was a sum of defensive responses. I wasn't born or raised in the best places, almost lost an eye, and the other one along with my left arm in a separate incident.
| Of course such things shape the way you relate to people. I'm still the distrustful sort, and I have work to do in the "welcoming people with an open heart" front, but being aware of the mechanisms behind your own tendencies does make them less powerful, as soon as you recognize them for what they are, and you recognize them as yours. This is just my idea, but I think making peace with yourself inevitably means facing your own issues and their cause in a similar way, it feels true.
| >>1034752 >>1034753 that's why for the most part you have to just insult people for quick trash responses and engage with people to the fullest when they engage back. Online I mean, I'm not going to go around and call someone out for just saying "I get you" when I talk about something
| >>c1e4ba It's good to have a high degree of self-awareness like you have. Self-introspection is a great tool to learn, change, and improve what you want to improve in yourself.
About letting your heart open, I struggle with that myself, sometimes it's difficult to be more open and vulnerable, specially when you're in an environment where it's generally not encouraged...
Yet, I feel like despite this, if you try, you will be able to find little moments where you should be sincere
| And let your heart breathe more freely to the sight of others. Perhaps steps like these every now and then will encourage the people around you to be more open and sincere as well.
Sometimes when humans share light, more lights will lit up and shine the night.
This thread is closed.
| Everyone is always trying to be funny, witty, or sarcastic ALL the time on Discord or Twitter or whatever social media and it's so tiring.
Recently I've found that just being sincere and normal has gotten me quite a few friends and mutual follows from artists I admire. Making thoughtful observations and conversations is dead, no one can socialize anymore. Some artist even posted something like, 'you don't have to leave a funny reply under every tweet'. I think about that a lot