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help, I cum too early
| i have a few speculations as to why:
1. im tired and stressed all the time
2. maybe in depressed
3. gf and i went through emotionally stressful stuff. im emotional
or maybe..
4. im just bad at sex.
i used to make her orgasm so much that she begs for it but i cant even last like 2 minutes without cumming all of whats in my balls
| its so embarrasing when she wont talk to me after cause she's still asking for more. but what can i do? i feel really hopeless and defeated.
serious genuine question, anons, what can i do? what steps should I take?
i just tried masturbating just a few minutes ago and timed myself.
im not even looking at porn, just pictures of my gf.
my time is at embarassingly 45 seconds. wtf
| and usually even after i cum i can make my dick hard again but now its limp as fuck.
im too young to have erectile dysfunction oh god no.
fucking hell
| Hahaha you are speedruner
| Try sex
| Try fingering, foreplay is fun
| Put sound in it, it will block cum to get outside so you won't cum early, you are welcome
| It's a negative feedbackloop type of thing. Not lasting long because your anxious just makes you more anxious.
Unfortunately it's mostly a mind game, try and stick to positions that let you dictate the pace til you get your mojo back.
It doesn't help either if gf is mad pouty n shit but the opposite can be just as emasculating. Regain some confidence and chill for a bit.
| There's also more to sex than dicks g/u/rl. There's lots of toys out there, and lots of ways you can keep her entertained while you get it back up.
| use a strap-on
| Accept that you ain't getting younger
| With my ex, I used to ejaculate during the foreplay in order to last long for the real thing. Is this how it usually works ?
| Your problem here is that gf isn't satisfied, so what you gotta do is focus on making her feel good during foreplay. Remember, sex isn't just penetration
| practice on me
| literally get some erectile dysfunction meds. you're making yourself worse witb worry and draining your confidence, so some little blue pills will solve the short term problem. Long term, talk to her about how the stress is impacting your sex life, get good at cunnilingus and fingering, and go see a doctor. something like 30% of men have ED, and the number is only getting higher.
stop beating yourself up over perceived failures and take steps to solve the issue at hand.
| U cut? If not, helps lower sensation.
Fap alot? Do it more, builds resistance and no one is tighter than the Hand.
And get a toy to use on her while recharging, it can still be fun, even if it isn't the same.
Relive "pressure" in expectation so you're ready but not bursting at the seams when you get to it.
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| what do?
back then i used to last half an hour before cumming
but now, once my gf starts riding me, i cant help but cum immediately and i can't help it.
her sex drive when we're together is through the roof (we are long distance rs) and i want to satisfy her so much but after cumming i cant make my dick hard again. at least, not after a bit of cooldown.
ofc, this cooldown feels like forever to her and she gets mad at me