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How can I stop myself from masturbating??
| You’ve done the first step, which is admitting you have a problem. What made me stop the cycle, was taking note on how negatively it has impacted me. All addictions have severe negative effects in ones life, and for me it was causing me to be shut in, perform poorly in work, and lose passion in hobbies. I did it for similar reasons to yours, but how I’ve managed to avoid it is to fill that time in with something productive; find a healthier coping mechanism to your problems.
| >>2eac06 definitely the hardest but the most productive thing for me to do is to find that healthier coping mechanism. The problem is I don't know how to. I can think of things like drawing, reading a comic or manga where I left it off, studying, etc. but to actually do it is difficult for me. For instance, when I feel the need to watch porn most of the time its at night where I'm already lying on my bed and I can easily be tempted to.
| Before I have escaped this since I would have a friend to talk to but now that I have developed myself into this somehow cold, annoying to talk to, lonely person, I cannot not do it anymore.
| >cold, annoying to talk to, lonely person
You've just answered your own question, OP. Whatever it is that's making you feel a sense of self-loathing, put all of your energy into figuring out the why. Once you have a clue, fight as hard as you can to improve your self-image. That's how you can be productive. Excessive masturbation is only one symptom of a much larger problem.
| As for how you can fight the impulse to fap like a maniac? Unfortunately, that will take some real mental restraint. Set a goal. If you can make it at least 3 weeks without jerking it and viewing pornography, your brain's habit formation system will have had time to reinforce this behaivor. If you know you'll get horny at night, put your phone in another room. Every morning you wake up, seriously congratulate yourself for resisting the urge.
| Make good exercise habits too. Try to eat well. Yadda yadda, you know, the typical health advice.
Really, the biggest issue, again, is your self-image. Regardless of whether you actually are "annoying" or whatever, look into addressing that situation ASAP.
| >>8030ca I am sorry but I can't really pinpoint out why my friends had suddenly stopped talking to me. Suddenly, I noticed all of them reply dryly to me which made me analyze that I am annoying to talk to which in turn made me cold to them now too.
I had a year gap and now I attend at a not so famous school whereas I am quite aware before that my friends always talked about getting into schools that are famous and popular in our country. It hurts to think of but maybe that's why?
| I was into exercise too before but then the reality of the pandemic hit on our homes and I caught covid. After that I had an appendix surgery which all in all made me stopped into having exercise till now.
| >>8030ca I'll take your advice into when I think that I might have the urge again to watch porn or masturbate, I will put my phone far from me and just try to sleep it off. Hopefully, I can succesfully do this in the following days, weeks and months.
If you're still up here, I'll try to update you on that. I really appreciate you telling your story and trying to help me. It has been a painful and shameful thing to admit that I have this kind of addiction.
| Have you tried having sex, instead?
| Honestly, these past few days my motivation into things have skyrocketed downward. The only thing that keeps me going for now is that I need to graduate and have a job in the future. I try avoid into thinking it's bleak as much as possible but it's really difficult.
| I've been curbing my addiction lately with some mundane but helpful tasks. Whenever I notice I'm in a loop, going back to habits I get up and do dishes or I make some food or anything really as long as its helpful to you in the end.
Its something I might not enjoy in the moment but I'm glad that I did it and as a plus it keeps me away from falling back into bad habits. Hope this helps OP.
| >>0b9cde Thank you. This helps a lot.
I thought being productive just means distracting myself into working or studying. I forgot that even simple things like cleaning the house, organizing things, cooking, and other tasks to take care of myself help a whole lot too in both mental and physical of myself. Thank you really, I would be taking note of this.
I sincerely hope that you completely get out of that hell hole of yours too.
| I've been overthinking and overanalyzing things way too much that I unconsciously forgot the most simplest of things. I really need to start over again.
| Earlier actually before making this thread, I just finished masturbating. My thinking and feeling in that exact moment is to just finally let off some steam through cumming but right after I climaxed, I just felt disgusted when I opened my eyes. Makes me puke but it's still something that I yearn for.
| It's pretty simple, just find something worth dedicating your time too so that you feel fufilled either mentally or physically.
Difficulty is just dependent on how empty your life is. Just apply the same logic as a cokefiend, instead you're a cumfiend.
| I have those things worth dedicating my time to. I can think a lot of those. It's just I still keep choosing to spend my time to watch porn. I know it's wrong but I keep thinking that it's not and it's okay if I just keep doing it when I have nothing to do at the time.
| >>01e80e I'm not that much of a maniac but I do it when I feel it. I don't always count but I remember the worst when my whole 2 or 3 days are just full of that.
| remember fight club, when the dude was an all around miserable drone, and he was visiting these clubs or whatever? then he cried the fuck out of his eyes in some man biddies and slept well for once? and youd think thats whats life about, cry in some dudes tits to feel complete, but then his house exploded and he got hit in the face, and THEN he was REALLY(but not quite) feeling complete breaking headlights, afterwards looking at these sob gatherings with a sense of superiority?
| and then it turns out that ALL the shit is completely made up and arbitrary and sorta in his head, and only after shooting himself in the mouth did he REALLY become complete?
yeah
fight clubs a weird movie
| but maybe you should stop sobbing into metaphorical dudes jugs and move on to breaking headlights, way healthier.
and who knows, maybe at some point youll shoot your cheek off and realise the entirety of this thread is arbitrary compensatory bullshit, sorta like that whole spirit animal schtick
idk tho, lifes weird dude
| I uh just really needed someone or other people's opinion and perspective that can relate and give advice to how stop an addiction. I admit I did tell things that would just make you pity me but that was the me on those yesterdays. The past few days have hit me hard and all I can do to cope is to masturbate those train of thoughts away but in the end, I just felt disgusted at myself for falling on that hell hole again.
| >>834680 paragraph full of senseless made up shit. cry in sone dudes biddies and go to sleep without touching your penis once.
| or just keep touching your penis and not feel bad about it, you could be just a naturally horny motherfucker, who told you its bad? i jerk it atleast twice a day and feel not a tinge of doubt
| *ponder for a minute on the last sentence and dont read the next post yet*
did reading the above made you feel better? less shame for you dirty deeds knowing that there is atleast another master baiter in this world not having a doubt of his wanker way? if it did, then how come you were so sure you "masturbation addiction" is ILL and must be CURED? gz, you came(huhu) a bit closer to understanding how "i thinks" not mean shit, not a thing. real post post nut clarity
| I love sex
| Masturbation is good. I even read an article before that it is good for the body once in a while medically speaking. The problem is though, I overuse it. I keep neglecting the things I need to do in my life. It's not healthy anymore and I myself know it but I just can't stop because it is an addiction.
Maybe you're just having bad days these recently, I'll try to understand your behavior more.
| just don't
| Wtf happened here
| Can you show us how you masturbate?
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| Serious question, how do I stop myself from doing it???
This has been a problem in me ever since before. Tried to deny it a lot of times but I've came to a conlusion that I have porn addiction.
Sounds silly but its really depressing. I've stopped it before but now I'm into this hell hole again where I get off myself whenever I feel sad.
How can I stop this as an escapism?