Would anyone here have experience in building a polycule?
Post number #821418, ID: 328c35
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I have two people with whom I am involved in a polygamous relationship (they know about one another and have consented to this arrangement). I want to bring them closer together, preferably to the point of living under the same roof, and hanging out in the same cuddle pile. <3 I haven't broached the subject too much yet, knowing that while they know about each other, they don't exactly know *each other*.
Post number #821419, ID: 328c35
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I've tried some basic stuff like video games to bring them together, and that's worked a little I think. But I don't know how much hanging out would be necessary to offer that we all get a place together, and whether the jealousy issues that can be managed somewhat well as things stand wouldn't flare up if I had both my lovers around at the same time, all the time.
Post number #821420, ID: 328c35
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I would love to get some mentoring from a more experienced polyg/u/rl on this (preferably in private). Please leave a contact if you want to help!
Post number #821436, ID: d2f682
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Do some orgies
Post number #821439, ID: 2b05b9
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Do 5-MeO-DMT together
Post number #821450, ID: 64ca12
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Seems more like a reddit question. But i wouldn't say that you can make them like eachother necessarily.
The only poly stuff I've seen has been purely utilitarian, so i didn't see any of the jealousy issues because they were made separate and not talked about really.
But ultimately if the two don't click probably bury the thought. Otherwise you might get into a situation where you're leveraging the relationship to do things they might have no interest in. Tricky stuff.
Post number #821496, ID: e09170
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There's nothing in this world that reveals more things about a group of people and makes them bond with each other than a Dungeons and Dragons game. Believe me. But if your group isn't into that stuff well, idk.
Post number #821522, ID: f465df
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I got nobody but damn if I was poly I'd always try connecting the dots. Idk something feels off about someone being excluded
Post number #821523, ID: f465df
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>>821496 yeah basically a d&d group but they fuck!
Guess that's the hard part, how do we get two people to fuck? Ideally get them in a threesome, after which things get easier. But getting there is the hard part
Dunno how you feel about it OP but I think you're gonna need to be in the middle. Grab one in each arm, cuddle and then start talking how you'd like to get spitroasted. That's the best advice I can give you OP but pinch of salt I don't have any exp with relationships.
Post number #821536, ID: 8aceb2
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Just get drunk together and share secrets.
Post number #821590, ID: 7a97e4
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If they're both aware of this triangular relationship and they haven't bonded with each other after your attempts to get them to do so, why force it? It seems like if your partners wanted to grow closer to one another, they already would have. Although, I don't have enough info to say that for certain.
If you really want this, you should tell them exactly what you've told us here. Maybe they're just anxious about how you would feel? But again, I don't know your dynamics, so eh.
Post number #821694, ID: ce32b7
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^ this guy makes sense
Post number #822052, ID: d5a849
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Yeah most people on the internet ask something easy to understand that makes sense and would likely resolve any misunderstandings and confusion if told to all parties experiencing the problem.
Just say what you asked us, word for word, and then say that some random internet person told you to say it if they somehow take it poorly.
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| I have two people with whom I am involved in a polygamous relationship (they know about one another and have consented to this arrangement). I want to bring them closer together, preferably to the point of living under the same roof, and hanging out in the same cuddle pile. <3
I haven't broached the subject too much yet, knowing that while they know about each other, they don't exactly know *each other*.