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Can I get rid of fetish?
| Well we have similar issue but I don't complain in my case
| Why would you want to get rid of a fetish though? There's nothing wrong with your fetish imo unless it's to the point it bothers other people immensely
| Just enjoy yourself, op. There's no point in pretending being someone else
| It bothers me. It poisons my life and each time I fantasize about these femdom things I feel guilty, shameful, sometimes I even cry because of that. On top of that my gfs tend to share my secret with their friends and sometimes with our mutual friends and I don't want them to know. Women also treat me like a lesser person, don't take me seriously, often mock me etc. I want to be cured but I don't make enough money to afford psychotherapy or smth like that
| >>703484 bruh, wtf!? If your girlfirend does that to you, then you should just break up, if she really cared then she wouldnt make you feel bad about yourself especially something as personal as your fetishes.
| >>703490
It's only normal for a woman to be disgusted (unconsciously mostly but still) by such perversion. I just want to quit this whole femdom/transition stuff is it possible w/o psychotherapy?
| >>703496 no it isnt, she is just self centered, find somebody that can love you right or that at least doesnt make you feel bad for being you
| >>703498
I speak from experience. At least where I live women view "weak" men not as equal. It's not just one gf too, more than just one "bad" person.
| So is there any way to get rid of my perversions? Some website maybe or something?
| >>703499 change starts with you, so first break up, second get more confident and third dont let anyone treat you poorly, if thse people cant respect you then you dont need to respect them
| It's not you who needs to be cured op, but people you deal with. Forcing yourself to be someone you are not won't bring happiness
| imagine having an accepting sadistic dom gf
| >>703509
I'm also lazy and boring. It's part of me! But it'd be really good to finally get rid of these traits too, right? Racists should change, right? They hurt other people and I hurt myself, is there a difference? Why should I be obliged to love myself for being worst version of myself and racists should change themselves? I'm hurting myself by being masochist and I want to stop it. Can I do it by myself or psychotherapy is the only way?
| >>703546
Racists hurting people of colour = OP liking to get spanked by girls or something??
G/u/rl. Take a breath, read what you're tying out
| >>703548
Hurting myself = hurting others. That's what I'm saying. Masochism in my case doesn't end on "getting spanked" and even if it does end there it still is not healthy imo. I'm op tho hehe
| I just want an answer if it's possible to change myself into normal human being w/o help of specialists :(
| >>703551 bruh, if you dont like it then you are not masochist and you are lookin at the wrong issue.
Do some therapy and talk to a professional, it can be quite fulfiling
| >>703551
>Hurting myself = hurting others
They're literally the opposite g/u/rl. They're legit the polar opposite of each other.
Tho yeah what >>703555 said. From the sounds of it this sounds more like your getting abused by your shit girlfriends and imo the first "none masochist" thing you could do is tell them to eat shit and leave you alone.
Besides that see if you have anyone friendly to reach out for support, since you can't afford professional help right now
| >>703556 there are free therapists online just seeking help getting to talk can already be a great start
| >>703555
That's the problem. I'm a masochist and I don't want to be one. I have no money for therapist (especially if I won't be comfortable with the first one)
>>703556
It's the same hate turned towards not the others but myself. I'm part of humanity and it's not good to hurt humanity individuals. That's a good thought about "none masochist" action tho! I have no one to talk to sadly. My current gf tells me it's ok to be into femdom but she actually treats me worse because of it.
| Op, the answer to can you get rid of a fetish is not really, I've had some things I was into do less for me now but that's just my taste changing as I got older
The women in your life are assholes, if they don't care that telling other people about your fetish hurts you they don't care about you
Also it can't hurt others so you're ether rationalizing how you deserve their treatment of you or being gaslighted to think you're in the wrong, ether way you probably need out
| As for thinking you might have dysphoria you need a doctor to diagnose that, and hopefully it's not you being gaslighted to think you want to be the opposite gender
Treatment is usually something along the lines of, live life as what you'd be transitioning to for a period of time to make sure it's what you want, followed by therapy and hormones, and optional surgery
Don't let unqualified people diagnose you though see a doc, preferably one who's delt with this before
| surgery/hormones is gonna fuck you up
lots of mentally ill people have trannyism in the bundle, good luck op
| Why are you asking us whether you have dysphoria? I'm pretty sure you'd notice being under severe emotional distress. You don't need us, and you certainly don't need a doctor, to tell you how you feel. The doctor might help you understand it, but damn them if they try to tell you whether or not you're feeling something. A stranger on the internet might help with that, too, but that's not necessarily the best advice.
| >>703672
I'm not asking about dysphoria I just thought that wanting to be a girl since childhood might be correlated with my fetish (and ofc I want to get rid of trans stuff too if it's possible). I don't need a doctor to understand how I feel, I need a doctor to cure me (if it's even possible).
| >>703720 look. Idk how to tell you this g/u/rl but psychologists have been trying to cure everything queer for decades and it just doesn't work like that.
I'm telling your from experience if you want to be a girl the only think that will make you happy is seeing yourself as a girl. There is nothing to cure there.
All I'm gonna say is you REALLY don't want to go through conversion therapy. There's tons of stories you can read up on how that's basically pointless torture.
| >I'm not asking about dysphoria I just thought that wanting to be a girl since childhood might be correlated with my fetish
Sure it is. The correlation is that you've always wanted to be a girl, and you've also always been turned on by liked pain. Big whoop. I bet there's also a similar correlation between having skin and having bones. Also things that you've had your whole life. I bet there's also a correlation between breathing and... you get my point now?
| >I don't need a doctor to understand how I feel, I need a doctor to cure me (if it's even possible).
The human mind, even what little we do understand about it, is not so simple as having a `cure.' If you're careful, you can repress yourself really well, but it's probably going to suck ass shit for your whole life.
| >All I'm gonna say is you REALLY don't want to go through conversion therapy. There's tons of stories you can read up on how that's basically pointless torture.
For a second I thought you were talking about hormone therapy, and I was like `what!?' People need to start giving better descriptive names for these things.
| >>703766 anti hypno hypnos exist?
I don't think the army is the best place to go to learn how to not be disciplined by others lol
| Conversion therapy doesn't work, if anything not accepting what you're attracted to will make you top yourself in the long run.
The paradigm only exists because of current norms. Imagine a straight guy saying he wants to be ge because he doesn't like being dominant.
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| I'm masochist and into almost all femdom stuff (except cuck stuff). Can I get rid of it? I've been like this almost six years... Also is it possible to stop being trans (if I am one)? Ppl on internet say I have dysphoria or smth